Know yourself. Know what makes you happy, and what doesn’t. Know how to cheer yourself up, how to make yourself laugh. When I’m feeling down, I like to make happy lists: lists of happy memories, or lists of things that make me laugh, things I’m grateful for, things I’m looking forward to. I carry around a little pink journal, so whenever I’m sad or stressed (no matter where—even on the metro), I can whip it out and start writing.
Be yourself. This one is pretty straight-forward: do what you want to do. Be who you want to be. And don’t let anyone or anything stand in your way.
Spend time on yourself. This might mean budgeting twenty extra minutes in the morning to make and eat a nutritious breakfast. Or it could mean you spend thirty minutes at the gym on your way home. It could even just mean spending ten minutes reading or meditating at the end of the day. Whatever it is, make sure you do it. You need your you-time.
Treat yourself. It’s important to pamper yourself every now and then. My favorite treats include lighting candles, reading poetry, and sipping tea. I also love bath bombs and face masks, and body care in general.
Love yourself. And don’t forget to show yourself you love yourself. After every shower, I take the time to moisturize with body butter or a massage bar. It doesn’t seem like a big deal, but it’s an essential part of my self-care regimen. Every time I moisturize, I’m telling my body “I love you.”I love you, I love you, I love you. And it feels good. I feel good. (Because I feel loved!)